My home (and life) have been nothing but chaotic over the last week, and that chaos has made me feel like a failure…how can I consider myself a homemaker when my home, family and life are a mess?
This week’s chaos was brought on by our new puppy. As we’ve been housebreaking him and navigating his “piranha stage”, otherwise known as teething, I’ve been faced with endless messes and my house in constant disarray. It’s been overwhelming and exhausting to say the least.
The chaos I was faced with this week was insurmountable. I tried my best to stay on top of the dirty dishes and continue my nightly tidying routine, but I failed at it all. The chaos won.
It got to the point where I had to face reality…I had to realize that I wasn’t going to be able to beat the chaos this week. I needed to prioritize our puppy’s comfort over the cleanliness of my home…so I did. I started embracing the chaos instead of trying to control it. I decided to order take out for the rest of the week so I could spare some mess in my kitchen and spend more time training our puppy. I stopped worrying about the mess and became more present with my family, and I quickly realized that it was more beneficial to my family and our new puppy for me to provide a feeling of comfort to them than it was for me to keep the house organized.
Embracing the chaos this week made me realize that that’s the biggest job of a homemaker…adapting to and embracing life’s chaos in the pursuit of our family’s happiness…because although doing our Sunday resets and nightly home shutdowns seem like our job, the root behind those routines is to support our home. It’s all about the feeling we create in our home. Life is not clean, simple, or slow. A healthy family should have a lot going on. Chaos should be welcomed by us as homemakers because it allows our family to live life to the fullest. I think being a homemaker is about supporting our home and providing as much balance and comfort as we can.
This week reminded me that when life feels complicated and chaotic, the best thing I can do as a homemaker is create a comforting, loving environment for my family. So if that feeling means ordering takeout, not getting the dishes done, or getting to bed earlier to recharge…it’s okay.
Only you know how to show up for your family in the way they need. Only you know how to provide the comfort they crave. So take this as your reminder to be easy on yourself when life gets chaotic.